Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Chapter 3

MOMMA & ME!!
 Well, now that you know a little about my childhood, let me tell you about my TEEN years.....LORD HAVE MERCY!!! I will not make excuses for my behavior, I could easily say it was all of my abusers fault. I must take responsibility for my own actions. After my momma and I were on our own, a few years were quite, and nice. We laughed a lot, and talked all the time. Those were some of the best years of my life! Once I turned about 15 and met a boy, he required all of my attention. Little did I know at the time, he was ABUSER #3.  He was very controlling,  and demanding. He was even physically abusive. Maybe I thought it was my destiny and I did not deserve anything better. I don't know why I allowed it, I guess I just wanted to be loved. At the age of 16, I had my first child. Her name is Sofia. I was determined to be a good mom to her. I finally had someone who would love me no matter what! I had her on June 21st 1985, she will be 27 years old in 8 days!! I know I made mistakes along the way, but I think she turned out to be a great woman, and a great mom to her children, Jaden, Gabriel, and Christian!! Ok, back to the story, After she was born, we broke up. During our break up, I met a guy named Javier. We were BEST FRIENDS! Nothing romantic about our relationship, just 2 people who needed a friend. One night we feel asleep, we woke up in the middle of the night, and I guess curiosity got the best of us. We ended up having sex. We both agreed that would never happen again, and we are just friends, and we wanted to keep it that way. About a month passed and guess what....I missed my period..... SERIOUSLY!!  I told him about it, he seemed happy, but nervous about it. It was no time, until he would not call me or answer any of my calls. Well, there goes that, 18years old 1 child and one on the way. Not long later, My Ex boyfriend (Sofia's dad) started coming around again, and I ended up marrying him. That lasted a whole 8 months. I made the decision to leave him, because I did not want Sofia and her sister Deja  being abused or seeing me be abused.  I had my 2nd daughter Deja on June 13th 1987, TODAY is her 25TH birthday! She turned out to be a great woman & Mom to her daughter Jalissa!   About 5 months of being alone, one day my phone rang. I was living in my momma's house, alone with my 2 daughters. I had the same phone # that we had all my life. Guess who was on the other line....YEP, JAVIER. I was like...what do you want, and why are you calling here. Little did I know, the whole time I was gone, he stayed in touch with my momma. He even went to her house and everything. He realized he made a mistake, but it was too late, I was already married.  She never told me because she was afraid that my ex would find out and kill me. LONG STORY SHORT...it took a while, but we got back together and got married a few years later. STILL HAPPILY MARRIED TODAY. HE IS STILL MY BEST FRIEND! He had a son from his ex and we raised him together his name is Ezekiel, and  We have a Son name James Gabriel he is 21 years old!! I am so proud to be His momma, he has grown up to be a hard working man, just like his dad! Javier adopted Sofia, and made her, his DAUGHTER!! About 18 years ago, we both gave our heart's and lives to God, and we serve Him every day. God has truly brought us through a lot!! We are proud grandparents of JADEN, GABRIEL, CHRISTIAN, JALISSA & JUDE.....
Momma went to be with the Lord on May 10TH 2011. She will always be with me, she was the BEST MOMMA EVER!

Javier, Me, James 

Jalissa & Deja 

Javier & HIS Daughter Sofia
Jaden, Sofia's daughter 7 years old


Gabriel Sofia's Son.. 4 years old


Christian Sofia's NEW son!! 11 days old today!



MY FAMILY! The Groom is Jason, Sofia's Husband!!






3 comments:

  1. Girl what a story

    sounds like my life when I was younger

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  2. Melissa this brought tears to my eyes. What a happy ending. The Lord is truly good!!! May HE continue blessing you and your sweet and beautiful family.

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  3. At times reading it reminds me of my childhood and teen years. We feel no one love us and we look in all the wrong places for it. At times having a twisted idea on what love is. Thank you for being so candid and honest with your story. You have touched me in so many ways. May God continue to bless you and your family!!
    Donna

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